Stop Crying, It’s Only Thanksgiving

I know how it can be. You’re feeling a little under-the-weather/unwell/downright miserable, and you are facing a tumultuous family gathering filled with screaming children, foods your body does not tolerate, and people your psyche does not tolerate. Do you feel thankful yet?

No, in fact, you are thinking how thankful you will feel the day after Thanksgiving until it hits you….NO!!!!! {insert moan here} that’s Black Friday….the day that reminds me that not only do I have to do it all again in a month, but I have to do it then with presents. For everybody. Every. Body.

Now, let’s take a deep breath here. It’s all happened before and it will all happen again, but it doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, you can be thankful, and even have fun. For those of you who have perfect holiday gatherings, I am genuinely happy for you, and my wish is for everyone to have nothing but joy this holiday season. Please leave comments below to say what you think makes that possible so you can help those who struggle. This post is for those who haven’t had those peaceful holiday experiences.

Click on this pic for a recipe for "Emergency Turkey," a quick and delicious way to cook a turkey breast.
Click on this pic for a recipe for “Emergency Turkey.” Photo courtesy of thehungrywaitress.com

First, sit quietly by yourself for a few minutes todaypositive, but yes. We need to think about these things in advance. Write them down if you don’t think anyone will find this list (that would be bad.) What are two things that you can change? Can you not sit by Aunt so-and-so who questions your parenting choices, or maybe cook that special thing Cousin Bobby bugs you about every family gathering (or not cook it, as the case may be?) How about dressing your little darling in that outfit the in-laws bought so they stop asking where their gifts go?

There are going to be things you can’t change. Some situations (and people) just are what they are. Here’s what I want you to do about those: . Think about what really bothers you at these events. Bothers you? That doesn’t sound positive, but yes. We need to think about these things in advance. Write them down if you don’t think anyone will find this list (that would be bad.) What are two things that you can change? Can you not sit by Aunt so-and-so who questions your parenting choices, or maybe cook that special thing Cousin Bobby bugs you about every family gathering (or not cook it, as the case may be?) How about dressing your little darling in that outfit the in-laws bought so they stop asking where their gifts go?

There are going to be things you can’t change. Some situations (and people) just are what they are. Here’s what I want you to do about those: PREPARE for the negatives. You know what they are. They happen every time and yet you let them surprise and upset you. Why is that? I don’t know either but I used to do the same thing too. SO, as they happen think to yourself, “I knew you were going to say that hurtful thing, you predictable person!” and smile. Yes, outwardly, or just inwardly to yourself. Smile and think, I can take this now. I knew it was coming, and it’s not going to get to me. People around you are not going to change for you, but you can change your way of processing and handling things. You are stronger than you think.

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Smile, you are going to make this the best Thanksgiving ever!

And when you get home or after all the guests leave your home, you will know that you did it! You can handle it now! You are not alone you know, we are all out here with at least one person who just seems to get us down at every family function. But now we’re a sisterhood of people who believes in each other, even though we haven’t even met yet. You can be thankful for that. Happy Thanksgiving early. You deserve it!

Another positive thing… would you like a super easy turkey recipe? Are you only cooking for a few and don’t want to handle that huge bird? Or maybe you’re going somewhere else for dinner but want turkey leftovers at home. A friend of mine has an excellent cooking blog and explains how to cook a five-pound turkey breast in an hour. Yes, an hour!! She’s also got cornbread dressing and some other great recipes and they’re super easy to print and carry to the kitchen so the computer doesn’t get food on it. Check it out and have a wonderful holiday! www.thehungrywaitress.com

Your challenge for today: Focus on being thankful, and let the rest go.

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