“Why would I want to try to positive when I’m sick?”
CHRONIC ILLNESS AND PAIN ARE TOUGH!
- They steal your time
- They steal your energy
- They take away your mobility
- They make you grumpy
- They cost you money
- They make you feel guilty about the things you can’t do
- They alienate people who don’t understand
I was on Twitter the other day, and a woman was talking about how everyone tells her how to be positive, and she honestly doesn’t WANT to be positive sometimes. I get it. Here’s the truth about me:
I AM NOT ALWAYS POSITIVE
I DON’T ALWAYS FEEL LIKE BEING POSITIVE
SOMETIMES I AM DOWNRIGHT GRUMPY
There you have it! Not only do I have asthma that literally takes my breath away; neuropathy that causes pain and burning; myopathy that’s atrophying my muscles; and a host of other illnesses; I am also going through pre-menopause. I don’t like to admit it, but it’s true. Sometimes, I am one huge, bundle-of-nerves mess.
THAT’S WHY I HAVE CHOSEN TO BE POSITIVE
It doesn’t come naturally to me. I have to work at it. If I didn’t work at it though, I would alienate everyone in my life that I care about. I WAS alienating the people in my life that I cared about. All I could think about were my sickness and pain, and the fear and guilt they were causing.
Has my situation changed? No. Am I in less pain? No. But I have better relationships and a bright future, all because I chose to be happy and focus on positive things; my family, this blog, and my new book, and our Chronically Positive Mom support group.
I HOPE YOU WILL JOIN ME ON MY POSITIVE JOURNEY
I don’t want you to fake it. Everyone hates that. Sometimes you’re gonna feel like crap. Take the time you need to feel it, and do what you can to ease your burden. But after a bit, choose to focus on something else. Create your blog, write your book, put those thousands of pictures you have into some sort of order, write letters to all your long-lost friends. Do something, plan something., connect with someone. Want to learn about publishing a book? Apply to be on the launch team for “The Sick Mom’s Guide® to Having Fun Again” You’ll get a free book and a behind the scenes peek at the process, and some other special stuff!
I promise, if you let your mind have something besides you to focus on, you will feel a bit better.
Want to know more? Check out this article called, “Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress” from the Mayo clinic: http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
YOUR CHALLENGE FOR TODAY: Find something to focus on the next time you feel miserable. Post it in the comments below, maybe you’ll give someone else the idea they needed to feel better too!